Whether you call it guilt or a self-imposed sense of responsibility,men usually suffer morewhen home cuts into work”Men still tend to define themselves more than females in terms ofsuccess at work," says Geoffrey Greif,associate dean of the University of Maryland's School of
Social Work"It's hard to let gO of the idea that success is defined as success at work versus doinga goodjob as a father．"
To their wives who want to know why they aren't home for dinner,the career—loving men willsay：It's not like I'm on the golf cou rse 1 was at the office until 11口m working for our family．Andthewives can say：But aren't you doing what you want to do?
Didn't we have a fominist revolution?Don't close to a fou rth of women earn more than theirhusbands?Yes，but even today it's hard to find a chief executive's wife who has a career,
Inthis confusing environment somemen are startingto rethinktheir priorities Sometimesit'sbecause they want to be closer to their kids than their distant 1950s dads were to them Orsometimes they change unwillingly,pushed by their wives to spend more time on family matters
Whatever the reasons combine them with a tight labor market,technology that allows em—ployees to work from home and a younger generation of chief executives，and you're seeing thebeginnings of change ln thecorporate workplace
Ha rry Kraemer is pa rt of this new generation He woke uD to the problem three years agowhen Baxterwhich manufactures medical products，surveyed employees and found that conflictsbetween work and home were roiling'the company．Surprisingly,even more men than womenreported feeling stress Look at the gender split：49％of men versus 39％of women said theywere looking for a new 10b because of work／lifeco flicts.
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